What about this thing called love in this modern world, how do you know if someone loves you? Is it because someone adheres to your wishes, does what you expect, and yields to your demands? What about all the programs, books, television shows all trying to give you the basis to shore up relationships, or have a better marriage. What in the end do these people know about love? In the world love is soupy, syrupy, slimy, sexy, mental health, partners, genderless, mediation, your car, your house, your friend, your co-worker, your hair, dress, shoes, purse, your money, new furniture, the list goes on and on. Love therefore, has many definitions and the term is used without thought, intent or meaning. How many leave each day saying to another, “love ya”. No I dare say most people don’t really know what love is at all. What does the slang love ya mean anyway? Is there a difference in saying love ya versus I am in love with you? If your “in love” aren’t you in a unique and envied place that others only wish they had.
In the Greek language there are three words that are used for love. The first, Eros, stands for sexual, romantic love. From Eros we have the word erotica. Eros is the kind of love mostly known by the world. You can easily notice people’s preoccupation with sex. This Eros love is what generally motivates people. The second word, Phalia, generally refers to affection between friends. From this word we have Philadelphia, the “City of Brotherly Love.” Although both eros and phalia have others as their focus, they both can be motivated by self-interest, self-gratification and self-protection. They are both the kind of love that is designed to satisfy the desires of the one doing the loving. There may be an element of giving involved, but it is a giving for the purpose of getting something in return. The third Greek word for love is Agape. The meaning of this word for love stands in sharp contrast to that of the other two words. This word alone points to a completely self-sacrificing love, a love that lacks self-interest, self-gratification and self-preservation. Agape love is motivated primarily by the interest and welfare of others. The word agape is used very sparingly by Greek secular writers, but in the New Testament, agape is the Greek word most frequently used for the love for God (Matt. 22:37, John 14:15), the love for spouses (Col. 3:19, Eph. 5:25), and the love for enemies (Matt. 5:44, Luke 6:35). Fortunately for us, we have a God that loved us so much that He sent his only begotten Son to reveal true Love to this planet. In fact if it were not for the love of God we as human beings would not even exist to contemplate such things as love or anything else.
If we are Christian then we were conceived in love because before we were a seed in our Mother’s womb He knew us and if we were conceived in love then we have a foundation built on love in which Jesus Christ is the chief cornerstone. And if we have a foundation whose substance or mortar is love then the house can be built in everlasting strength and become the home of Love.
This greatest of all blessings will look much like the following: For whom the Lord loves he chastens, and scourges every son whom he receives.
It will be a situation that will take from you everything that could ever spawn any boasting, arrogance, or pride. It will limit your choices so that insisting on your own way is physically impossible. It will provide grievous personal evil against you so that you can take no account of it. It will immerse you in injustice and failure until you can see through them, and stare into the eyes of a sovereign God. It will be anguish for you to bear up under for a long time. This is the gestation for agape-love. God’s greatest blessings are predicaments of divine distress shrouded in circumstances that energize the procreation of agape-love in you. These battlefields come labeled as “evil” by the faithless fleshly nature, because they provide an inevasible opportunity for you to love your enemies. The birth of agape-love is the substance of the Overcomer and this is God’s plan for you. But this love is not formed in you amidst mirth and abundance. Like all births, it issues forth from travail, as prescribed in 1 Corinthians 13. Love endures long and is patient and kind. Love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy. Love is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. Love does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking. Love is not touchy, or fretful or resentful. Love takes no account of the evil done to it. Love pays no attention to a suffered wrong. Love does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness. Love rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes. Love is ever ready to believe the best of every person. Love’s hopes are fadeless under all circumstances. Love endures everything without weakening. Love never fails, never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end. It is therefore very important for us to realize that love is the power of God, it is his essence and flows from him outward to us, it is the force that sustains everything on earth and the universe. It passes all understanding and is far above in scope and power than anything perceived on earth by the unregenerate population. God’s love is actually the embodiment of everything created; it is creation Quad-Defined. So reader, now that we find ourselves in Love, we ought to be helping one another as the hand and fingers hold the fork bringing food to the mouth. For as we know, the hand and the mouth are parts of our body as in Christ’s love we are all members of one body with each functioning part working together to bring nourishment to the whole. “And this will we do, if God permit”.